In my mind, this was something wildly romantic: In hindsight, I realize that the comfort I got from being cared for and caring for another person was filling the void that was yearning for God, but at the time, I just thought I was happy. My parents, however, recognized that this was not a healthy relationship.
They expressed their dissatisfaction with the relationship, but I ignored it because being in that relationship made me feel better, and I mistook that feeling better as a sign I was doing the right thing. He cared about me a lot. He helped me as I came to understand my diagnosis of type 1 diabetes. He cared about me. He wanted to take care of me and give me the love I was longing for.
I was totally destroyed by my break-up with Ben. I felt hurt and broken and unlovable and clung to what made me feel better rather than what I truly needed. As soon as I finished that pleading prayer, I received an e-mail from my dad. In it, he beautifully expressed how much he loved me and why he was concerned about my relationship.
While in this situation, there was something better for us in earthly terms, for everyone who receives the truth, that something better is drawing closer to God. The key to this story is that my father found the proper balance of compassion and truth. Truth without love becomes cold and calculated. We need to keep this in our minds when we share the truth with others.
As Christians, we need to show our friends, family members, and even strangers that we care about them as people. We need to acknowledge our common position as beloved children of God and also sinners. If we avoid the truth, we are harming them. It is true they may be happy and not experience that harm now, but it could permanently destroy their relationship with God which is much more important.
Thanks for sharing this! For me speaking and hearing the truth it is all about timing. At times the Holy Spirit uses me and the truth comes out without me really doing the talking.
The truth just rings true with really no way to dispute it. But, we must also keep in mind it is a Spiritual Work of Mercy! Thanks for sharing your thoughts. It definitely is challenging.
I love the Fr. Dwight quote, it really struck me. Our culture surely frowns on sharing the truth. People also get confused on judgement. The judge not lest ye be judged verse is often thrown around, but people miss that it is talking about judging the soul not the act. We need to judge actions!
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For evidence-based accusations, you should state your claim and present the evidence that you have. In these cases, there's little room for the person wiggling out of the responsibility. Tell a version of their story. Lay out the facts you know by telling the story from your perspective. This may give you a partial confession. You can also deliberately change part of the story to entice them to correct you.
This may prompt them to correct you, which could lead you to the truth. Ask the same question over again in different ways. They may also be inconsistent with their answers, which could show they are lying. You could also ask them to tell their story starting from the end and leading up to the beginning or ask them to start in the middle. Choose your words carefully. The language you use can play a huge role in whether a person tells you the truth or not.
Using language that implies fault may cause the person to withhold. Selecting less harsh words can encourage the person to tell the truth. Bluffing is a dangerous, yet often effective, tactic.
It involves you making a threat or coming out with what you think is the truth, even though you may not really plan to fulfill the threat or have evidence. Also, try to avoid making any sort of threats if at all possible as doing so causes defensiveness, and decreases your chances of getting to the truth.
If a person stares you in the face and tells you a lie, it may be hard to control your reaction. If you must take a break to collect yourself, do so. But never assault a person or use any physical means to coerce them to tell the truth. Notice if they answer your question. Evasion is often a hint that someone is lying to you. Trying to change the subject or simply refusing to answer at all is a big clue. Listen to their voice. Their voice may get higher, they may speak quicker, or you may even be able to hear a quiver in their speech. Any type of change could be a signal they are lying.
Start by asking questions you already know the answer to and notice the way they sound as they answer.
They are likely lying if there are changes in their voice. Watch their body language. The appearance of a person can dramatically change if they are lying. Not telling the truth makes people nervous and their bodies often act accordingly. Even the smallest change in their behavior may indicate a lie. For instance, a person may try to hide their mouth or their eyes when they are telling a lie. You may also notice them fidgeting, swallowing more, and clearing their throat excessively. They may also avoid looking you in the eye and laugh nervously.
First ask yourself if you lie repeatedly or habitually. For some people, they learn early that telling the truth doesn't work--perhaps because they were excessively punished as children. To begin with, you must trust the person who are planning telling the truth to. You have to feel safe that even if you will be chastised or punished, it will be fair, and not brutal. See if there are some people you could practice telling the truth to, but not others.
This could tell you a lot about your various relationships.
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If it continues to be a serious problem, you might seek counseling to work it through. Not Helpful 2 Helpful A so-called friend of mine lies about almost everything and gossips to me and about me, won't admit to stealing or playing on my iPod without permission it had no password. What can I do? It sounds like this so-called friend has crossed many personal boundaries. First of all, put a password on all your electronics, and don't give it out!
If you haven't yet talked with the friend about how you feel about the lying, then give that a try; review the article above.. Assess if this person is worth your time to spend time with. If the answer is "no," then pull back--spend less time; don't confide in them. There is little you can do to someone gossiping about you, but hopefully the friends who really matter will be able to discern the truth from lies about you.
Be gentle and say something like "Mom, I'm really worried about you. Will you please tell me what's going on? Be sure not to ask her when she is busy or upset. If she says she isn't comfortable telling you when you ask, give it some time. Not Helpful 0 Helpful You can talk about how much you loved the thing they stole or how special it was to you.
Maybe suggest someone else stole it, and they might feel guilty and confess. It's best to be direct. Not Helpful 3 Helpful He or she might be afraid of the consequences. They might also be afraid of getting in trouble, being punished, or losing friendship. They often need to be reassured that this won't be the case before they tell the truth. Not Helpful 10 Helpful How do I get someone to appreciate the truth if I did something really bad? Be honest with and tell them why you did it. Ask them what they would have done in that situation and if it's someone close to you, they will most likely understand.
It may take time. Your parents are likely not telling you the truth because they are afraid of how you will react. You need to prove to your parents through your words and actions that you are mature enough to handle the truth.